"pleaser"

I'm not much of a "pleaser". Meaning I am not able to please everybody around me. I have my emotions and you have yours too. So I cannot always put on a smiling face when I am having my mood swings or I am not in the mood to do so.
Sometimes, there are certain people whom are just too critical about the behavior of others. You may be happy and wish to chit chat but there are times when the other party may not want to.

I take it to heart whatever people say. For example, I get comments that I glare or stare at them. I can't help it because of my big eyes. I hope to change for the better, but I can't because I'm born with it.
Another example, I am very harsh with words. I tried to keep my comments to myself, but people with "suan" me, "why are you so quiet?"

What am I suppose to do? I can't please everybody, I can't adapt to the complicated social circle...